There’s been a lot of talk online about Jason Collins, the NBA player from the Celtics and the Wizards who came out as gay this week — and some of that talk is offensive.

What is appropriate language to use online and in everyday life? Janell Burley Hofmann, a mother of five who helps us figure out how to behave with technology, shares her advice and recommends ThinkB4YouSpeak, a website which tracks anti-gay slurs on Twitter.